FAQs: General Information and Questions

Can you tell me more about PSS?

Pregnancy Support Services (PSS) is a Christian non-profit offering help and hope to women considering their choices in unplanned pregnancies and to youth navigating their choices in healthy relationships. All of our services are free and confidential including pregnancy testing, accurate education on all choices, limited first trimester ultrasounds, after abortion support, healthy relationship education, and STD Testing monthly through the Durham County Health Department. If you or someone you know is in need of these services, call us at 919-490-0203. You can also find our website at http://www.pregnancysupportservices.org.

What do I do if I think I am pregnant, or a friend is and doesn’t know what to do?

PSS offers help and hope to those who are considering their choices in the event of an unplanned pregnancy. Everything that we do is free and confidential. We offer free pregnancy testing, education on options, and free first trimester ultrasounds. Please call us at 919-490-0203 for an appointment. You are more than welcome to bring a friend.

Does this information apply to only male and female relationships?

The information and research in the presentation apply to all types of relationships. The presentation is intended to promote healthy relationships in all areas of an individual’s life. Healthy relationships and information regarding them are important regardless of your sexual orientation. Unhealthy and abusive relationships can occur within families, friendships, and romantic relationships.

If I am under 18 (minor), and send or receive a nude/sexually explicit picture of myself or another individual that is also under 18, then is it still considered a felony act of child pornography?

Yes. Regardless of if you are an individual are under 18, if you take a nude photo, download, or send a nude photo of someone that is under 18—you can be convicted to the full extent of the law regarding child pornography.

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Why is the amount of time you spend on social media important?

What you expose yourself to can affect your decision making and what you think is normal and acceptable in your life. It is healthy to have a balance. Studies from the University of Salford in the UK and The University of Pittsburgh/Columbia Business School show that the more time spent on social media, the lower an individual’s self- esteem.

If you find yourself spending too much time on social media, or others tell you that you are, a practical tip would be to limit the types of notifications you get on your phone, and only check it at certain times of the day.

(Commentary on Studies sourced from Soltero, Alvaro J. “The Relationship Between Social Media and Self-worth.” Weblog post. The Social U. Web.)

How do you get out of a bad situation?

Call for help–call a trusted parent, friend, or 911.

Where can I find more information?

Much of the information for the Healthy Relationships presentation is taken from the American Psychological Association and different research journals.

Another resource used is the Center for Disease Control’s website for statistics on STDs/STIs.

The PSS website has a list of resources used that can be found here: http://www.pregnancysupportservices.org/healthy-relationships-presentation.php

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FAQs: Relationships & Sex

Is it unhealthy in a relationship for me or my partner to tell the other how they should act, or who they should talk to and spend time with?

You can ask yourself the following:

-Why is he/she telling me this?

-Is it to protect me from unhealthy influences or to control me?

If you find yourself or a friend experiencing this, I urge you to tell a trusted adult or counselor immediately. Talk to your friend about what is unhealthy, but also understand that if they are emotionally involved and invested in a relationship, it may be harder for them to see and understand the greater issue of the negative things that are occurring.

What could a person do if they or a friend are in an unhealthy relationship?

Identify the things that make you uncomfortable and communicate your feelings of being in an unhealthy relationship with the other person. Even when you really like someone, if the relationship is unhealthy then it may not be the best thing for you as an individual.

Be mindful of these unhealthy characteristics: jealousy, fear, possessiveness or controlling behavior, verbal criticisms, social isolation, violent behavior, broken promises, and sexual pressure or abuse. Any type of threat to you physically is NEVER acceptable.

If you find yourself or a friend experiencing this, I urge you to tell a trusted adult or counselor immediately. Talk to your friend about what is unhealthy, but also understand that if they are emotionally involved and invested in a relationship, it may be harder for them to see and understand the greater issue of the negative things that are occurring. This is another reason that it is a good idea to tell a trusted adult.

How do I know if I am unhealthy or abusive in a relationship?

A good way to monitor this is if you see unhealthy or abusive characteristics in yourself that happen repeatedly, and are a pattern. If your partner or someone else has expressed the concern that you do unhealthy things or have an unhealthy attitude in a relationship, this may be a warning sign.

It is always a good idea to seek advice or counsel from a trusted adult–no one is perfect, and everyone has to learn how a healthy relationship functions. The best thing you can do for you, your current relationships, and future relationships is to seek advice if you have questions.

Another helpful resource to look at would be this list of warning signs in an unhealthy relationship, found at this link: http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/

I am not sure about what is healthy and what is not in some relationships?

In every relationship (friendly or romantic), you should feel safe and comfortable communicating with another person. There should be freedom to communicate what you want and how you feel to one another, without one person pressuring the other in any way. This is part of respecting one another and each other’s value as an individual. If you have specific questions, I would recommend that you talk to a trusted adult about it.

Some characteristics of a healthy relationship are:

  • Mutual Respect
  • Trust
  • Honesty
  • Support
  • Fairness/Equality
  • Separate Identities
  • Good Communication
  • Patience

Some characteristics of an unhealthy relationship are:

  • Jealousy and Fear
  • Possessiveness and Controlling Behavior
  • Verbal Criticisms
  • Social Isolation
  • Violent Behavior
  • Drugs and Alcohol
  • Broken Promises
  • Sexual Abuse or Pressure

The main point of abuse is to try to manipulate and control another person emotionally, verbally, and physically. Any type of abuse is never okay. We should treat others with honor and respect because everyone has value and is worthy of that.

If you have questions about a specific relationship or situation being abusive, I encourage you to talk to your parents or an older, trusted adult who can give you advice on how to best handle the situation.  

liveonpoint.org, adapted from The Domestic Violence and Incest Resource Center, DVIRC, 2009; But I Love Him, Dr. Jill Murray, 2000.

When everyone around you is sexually active and you feel like you’re the only one that isn’t, how do you handle that?

It is important that you know you are making decisions that are healthy and wise, regardless of what your friends and people around you are doing. One thing you could do is find a trusted friend or mentor to be your “accountability partner”–someone who supports your decision to not be sexually active and will be a person you can talk to when you may be struggling with this temptation. It is a good thing to have someone who can help and give you advice on how to avoid sexual activity.

If someone is pressuring me to have sex who should I tell?

A trusted adult, and if he/she does not give you healthy advice or offer solutions for your safety– find another trusted adult (such as a school nurse or counselor). It is NEVER okay to feel pressured and you are worth protecting.

What are the positives of not having sex until you are married?

You will not have had sex with anyone else and not have anyone with whom to compare your spouse. Along with this, there is a much lower risk of contracting STD/STIs. In the event that you do become pregnant, there is more structure and support to create a healthy environment for a child. Statistics show that those that have not been sexually active before marriage rate relationship satisfaction, communication, and pleasure higher.

Hendrick, Bill. “Benefits in Delaying Sex Until Marriage.” Ed. Louise Chang. WebMD Health News 28 Dec. 2010. Print. (Article Source: News Release, American Psychological Association. Busby, D. Journal of Family Psychology, 2010.)


How do you get STDs/STIs?

The ways each specific STD/STI can be spread is found on the Center for Disease Control’s website. The CDC States that the only way to avoid STDs is to not engage in ANY type of sexual activity. This is because there are many ways different STDs can be spread, including skin on skin contact, blood, saliva, and sexual fluids.

For more information: https://www.cdc.gov/std/

What are the different types of STDs?

The CDC gives information including all types of STDs/STIs, their symptoms, transmission, and whether or not specific STIs/STDs are curable on this page: https://www.cdc.gov/std/.

How do I get tested?

You can go to your primary doctor, your local county Health Department, or PSS. Follow this link to know when we offer FREE STD testing at PSS on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pss_durhamch/?hl=en

Or, call us at 919-490-0203.